Look Like A Girl But Think Like A Man?
‘Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man’. We have all probably heard this saying. And one of the first things that might actually come to mind is Steve Harvey’s bestselling book and romantic comedy film; starring great female actors like Gabrielle Union, Meagan Good, Taraji P Henson and more. In this romantic comedy, the leading women follow certain guidelines on how to outsmart their dates and keep their romantic relationship.
Besides this saying being used in a relationship context, it's often used as a motivational quote for working women - “Look Like A Girl - Act Like Lady - Think Like a Man – Work Like A Boss”
Even though it’s supposed to be a motivational quote, I never really feel motivated by it. As a matter of fact, it always leaves me confused. I understand the 'look like a girl, act like a lady, work like a boss' part. But why 'think like a man'?
So recently I decided to do a bit of research on this topic. Why should women ‘think like men’, and most importantly is it even beneficial to do so?
Type-S VS Type-E Brain
According to an article released on Telegraph, scientists have discovered that women in the UK who think like men earn more than those with the usual female brain known as ‘Type-E brain’. This type of brain tends to be more empathetic than the male ‘Type-S brain’ which tends to be better at constructing and analysing systems. However, on the contrary, women who work in sectors where the empathising trait is more important such as education, social care, and customer service, do earn better wages too.
Also, contrary to the ‘Think Like A Man’ concept. In the bestselling ‘Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office’, Dr. Lois Frankel says “success in your career does not necessarily come from acting or thinking like a man”.
Rather, women should stop thinking and behaving like ‘nice’ girls. Women bring a unique set of behaviours and play a unique role in the workplace. So the issue here is not that women should think like men. However, there are certain characteristics that actually both men and women can pick from each other in order to be more successful in the workplace.
For example, according to Dr. Lois Frankel, women tend to make many ‘girly’ mistakes in the corporate workplace. This includes:
- not being direct (assertive) about your needs
- caring too much about what others think
- And the inability to take risks due to self-doubt is also one of the common mistakes women tend to make way more than men.
Do we need the label?
In my opinion, women can definitely learn how to gain more success in the workplace by observing some male characteristics. For example:
- men tend to be more assertive
- men dare to negotiate
- men (often) dare to speak up more than women do
Developing these ‘set of skills’ but still thinking like women is, in my opinion, the key thing. We are created to be women for a reason, why force yourself to think like something or someone you're not?
Think about it, if a man obtains certain female characteristics such as being caring and showing more empathy - which in today’s business culture are essential skills for men to have as well. Does that mean that the man is ‘thinking like a woman’? - Also, if a male happens to lack social skills, no one tells them "boy, you better think more like a woman."
In conclusion, yes both sexes can learn from each other’s characteristics and skills. However, this is without one having to ‘be labeled’ to think like the other. But hey, maybe this calls for a part two.
What’s your opinion on the ‘Think Like A Man’ concept? I would love to know your thoughts in the comment box below.